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This month’s topic from HIW – Empathic Empowerment (Heart chakra)
I recently wrote about empathy “On the face of it, being able to feel and understand others’ emotions might seem like a good thing, this is the definition of empathy. It can also be a burden if we take on the emotions of others without some distance or detachment…”
Assuming if you are reading this you already know you are empathic; what I believe is needed for empowerment is detachment. To be in a perspective of witnessing rather than being absorbed or overwhelmed by whatever is going on around you. This is how I choose to be in my empowerment (on a good day!)
It’s possible to be empathetic and compassionate without being drawn in, overwhelmed, or drained by feelings and emotions. This is called being in ‘sacred neutral’ and approaching situations, and people, from a ‘higher perspective.’ This is all well and good, and HOW you might ask?
To begin let’s understand it’s not about not feeling, the feelings and emotions are what make us empaths. For me it’s about finding some distance and separation from the scenario, and knowing what’s mine to carry or not. Establishing and holding boundaries is another part of this, a topic for another day perhaps.
If I find myself overly emotional, trying to find solutions, or generally wanting to meddle, that is my sign that I’m too close and taking things personally. If I can listen, really hear or see, and then just be, I know I’m in the sweet spot. Often if people are sharing, they actually just want to be heard. They don’t need or want, my emotions or judgement, it’s their journey and my place is merely to accept. If it’s a situation over which I have absolutely no control, I must find a way to let that go, accept that it is happening, and let the universe play it out. It’s not my job to try to control.
I know you’ve gathered by now that to find help with this I turn to my beloved crystals and stones. This month I chose:
Aquamarine – Affinity with sensitive people, has the power to invoke tolerance of others. Overcomes judgementalism & supports those feeling overwhelmed by responsibility. Encourages taking responsibility for the self. Calms the mind, removes extraneous thought, clarifies perception, & clears up confusion. Helpful in understanding underlying emotional states & interpreting how you feel. Can invoke higher state of consciousness, spiritual awareness, & encourages service to humanity.
As always many stones can help with detachment:
Amethyst – Extremely powerful & protective. High spiritual vibration. Guards against psychic attack* transmuting the energy into love. Serenity enhances high states of consciousness. Promotes emotional centering.
Apophyllite – Promotes clarity, helps access higher consciousness. Can help release negative energies in body, mind, & soul. Encourages self-reflection, fosters profound sense of inner peace.
Aragonite – Teaches patience & acceptance. Combats oversensitivity, facilitates delegating, & helps develop a pragmatic approach to life.
Carnelian – Imparts acceptance of the cycle of life. Give courage & promotes positive life choices. Helps us trust ourselves & our perceptions. Overcomes negative conditioning. Powerful protector against envy, rage, & resentment, yours, or other peoples.
Celestite – Brings balance, alignment, & deep peace. Assists in conflict resolution & in maintain harmonious atmosphere in times of stress. Teaches to trust the infinite wisdom of the divine.
Kyanite – Powerful energy field protector, excellent aid for detachment. Allows only that which benefits & serves growth. Repels people, things, & situations that drain happiness or inner peace. Powerful cleansing stone removes low vibrational energies.
Lepidolite – Enhances standing in your own space free from the influence of others. As a ‘stone of transition’ it can release & reorganize old patterns & behaviors.
Sunstone – Extremely useful for removing mental or emotional “hooks” from other people, anything that drains your energy. It gently returns the energy to the contact effectively cutting the ties. Use Sunstone if you have trouble saying no or making sacrifices for others.
Black Tourmaline – Connects to base chakra, grounds energy increase physical vitality, disperses tension & stress. Clears negativity. Promotes a ‘laid-back’ attitude & objective neutrality with clear rational thought processes. Encourages a positive attitude no matter what, stimulates altruism & practical creativity.
* People may be doing this unknowingly. Powerful emotions can be perceived bodily as an attack.
Pink, Gold & White are the colors of the new Heart chakra. Rose Quartz THE heart opening stone. Renowned the world over as the Stone of Unconditional Love. A truly high, clear, and loving vibration. I will restate – Detachment is not about being closed and/or NOT feeling. My goal is to be in the world with my heart open without taking on the drama as my own. Emotions arise and I try to let them subside, knowing they are not mine to hold. Rose Quartz enhances this as it allows for acceptance and emotional healing by invoking compassion for self and the unconditional love of others.
Final thoughts: Found a great quote:
Healthy detachment has become to me – the release of the subjective thoughts, emotions or energy that I am holding about people, places and things that have kept me trapped in dis-ease. It means that I can step back as if observing what is happening around me without being involved in or creating additional drama. In so doing, I allow the feelings, thoughts and energy to dissipate, I am then free to act with and from compassion, love and acceptance.”
This is from “Solo” by Angela James and courtesy here of SerendipityCrystals.co.uk.
With love and blessings till next time. J
